"Understanding the signs of approaching end-of-life can help you emotionally and practically prepare while providing the care and support your loved one needs."
When a loved one, especially a parent, is nearing the end of life, it can be one of the most challenging times emotionally. Recognizing certain physical, emotional, and behavioral signs can help you better understand their needs and make the most of the time you have together.
1. Changes in Physical Appearance and Behavior
Appetite Loss: A significant decrease in appetite or refusal to eat and drink is common. The body requires less energy, and digestion slows as the body begins to shut down.
- What to Do: Offer small sips of water or ice chips, and focus on comfort rather than nutrition.
Extreme Fatigue and Sleepiness: Your loved one may sleep more and become less responsive as their energy wanes.
- What to Do: Respect their need for rest and speak softly, even if they seem unresponsive.
Cool or Discolored Skin: Circulation slows, leading to cool hands and feet or a bluish or mottled appearance, especially on extremities.
- What to Do: Keep them warm with light blankets and avoid overburdening them with heavy coverings.
2. Withdrawal from Social Interaction
Reduced Communication: They may engage less in conversations, prefer silence, or seem detached. This is a natural part of the transition process.
- What to Do: Provide quiet companionship, hold their hand, and reassure them with gentle words.
Decreased Interest in Activities: Hobbies, entertainment, or social interactions may no longer hold their interest.
- What to Do: Avoid pressuring them to engage and instead focus on creating a peaceful environment.